Tope Adenle's Blog

I am not going to use the liberty that my blog provides me to claim that I am a top notch professional in business dynamics neither am I going to pretend that I have perfect understanding of the way business works from a 360 degree approach.   However, I know something for sure, time has changed, just like weather, an era has gone. Having established that I am not a CEO, just yet I must add, I have understood that the landscapes have changed. No longer will I tilt towards the thought that ‘Innovation is over, adaptation is all that is needed’. Contrarily to that school of thought, Adaptation is over; Innovation is all that is needed. This I strongly support.  I changed. Several books have thought these two diverse views, in my opinion, several authors have created best sellers from existing modules that either obey the Principle of competitive adaptation of existing ideologies or compilations that preach the Creation of non-existing opportunities. Before I...

I have never assumed that I understand the yardstick for a perfect relationship as I know that needs vary and expectations differ. I have however tried to assemble a list of desires/ soul wishes when it comes to a relationship I will call perfect, but that is for me. Unfortunately, a mental exercise I didn’t need if I had better understanding at that time. Over time, especially when I matured emotionally and mentally enough to accommodate a partner in the true sense of it, I struggled hard with choice, I found out that most times, there is a conflict between my theoretical ‘girlfriend’ and the person I give the title. No arrogance intended. As I grew older, I figured out that at times, probably most times, choice has nothing to do with it, you end up with her (or him as the case may be) because several factors dictated: proximity, circle of friends, immediate environment etc. Available becomes desirable.   However , expectations raise its ugly head. As a matter...

This is probably something that never comes to mind , it just alien to me, primarily because I never saw my Dad beat my Mum or because its something that I don't see my married friends do. However, I have a total opinion change, domestic violence rate is as high as any other anomaly, I never realised this because I never met sufferers, or I just don't know the signs. A friend told me a story this week, her neighbour got married 4 months back, the wedding was a nice gathering that celebrated love and 'hopeful' togetherness. The couple seem so happy after the wedding, they laughed at each others jokes, held and still hold hands, they appear to have all that comes with marriage filled with bliss. My friend however noticed that they seem to argue every now and then, arguments that fade suddenly in the couples apartment, the noise just zeros out. My dear naughty friend assumed that the couples end arg...